Bearing creates a mindset
Exercise – Your observations about you and your posture
Before you go into a room, take a deep breathe, throw your shoulders back and walk in. Look around at the people. Is anyone looking at you? Shhhh…don’t say a word to anyone other than a nod when someone recognizes you. Observe what is happening.
Ask yourself
Do you I like the out come? Yes No Do I like how I feel? Yes No Do I sense the stronger people in the room moving towards me?
Yes No Did I get a head nod from someone I don’t know?
Yes No
I am aware of other people who have bad posture?
Yes No I am aware of the people in the room who are not standing as straight as I am? Yes No
- What are your perceptions about the people who are standing with poor posture?
- What are their capabilities?
- What are your perceptions about the people who are standing with poor posture? What are their capabilities?
- Take a moment right now—sit up or stand tall. Notice how it makes you feel.
- How does your posture affect your mindset and confidence?
- Let me know in the comments!
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I never think about my posture and I’m sure that is why my back hurts a lot of the time but after reading your post I’m been trying to stand up straighter and look people in the eye when walking into a room. Thank you for sharing.
Since I am tall, my parents were very insistent about me standing up straight. They sent me to modeling school, dance, everything to keep me standing tall!
Their rationale was that I was still going to be tall even if I slumped, just then people would think that I was embarrassed or ashamed and trying to hide if i slumped.
Great reminder!
I find that my posture differs depending on who I am with. Usually,I stand up tall, but in a crowd of people I feel as if I need to bend a bit. Protect myself maybe? I’ll be more conscious about what you have written.
Usually, I find myself standing straight and tall. However, when I am with people I don’t know, I tend to bend a bit. Make myself small. Protection maybe? I’ll be more aware in the future.