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     A few months ago, I watched a young designer at a networking event nervously circle the coffee station. She rehearsed “So, what do you do?” at least four times before finally approaching a woman from a major firm. Five minutes later, they were laughing about their mutual obsession with mid-century chairs and talking about design philosophies, not just business cards. That’s the magic of genuine conversation, it starts with small talk but ends with possibility. 

     Practice conversation starters.
Think of conversation starters as your warm-up stretch before a workout. A few well-placed openers  “What drew you to this field?” or “What’s been inspiring you lately?”  can break the ice faster than a stiff “How’s work?” The goal isn’t perfection; it’s presence. When you come prepared with curiosity-fueled openers, you make it easier for both of you to relax and connect naturally.

      Show genuine curiosity.
Curiosity is charisma in action. People can tell when you’re asking out of politeness versus true interest. Lean in, make eye contact, and listen to understand  not to reply. Even a simple “That’s interesting  tell me more about how that works” can shift a casual chat into a meaningful exchange. Curiosity keeps conversations alive, and it also makes you unforgettable.

     Move from small talk to meaningful talk.
     The best conversations evolve. You don’t have to force depth  just follow the thread. If someone mentions a challenge, ask how they handled it. If they light up about a topic, stay there. Before long, you’re talking about values, goals, or lessons learned  and that’s where authentic connection happens. Remember, it’s not about what you say; it’s about the feeling people leave with.

Whether it’s a networking event, a client meeting, or a quick chat in the hallway, every conversation holds potential. Practice your openers, stay curious, and follow the natural flow toward meaning. That’s how casual talk turns into collaboration  and sometimes, opportunity knocks disguised as small talk.

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